Kathleen, whenever there is abuse, there is one spouse or the other that falsely entered into the Sacrament oh Matrimony. How can you take seriously your vows to love and honor and then abuse the other. That is why the Church will often declare the Sacrament as being not present… “null.” However, Jesus words in the Gospel… His command, is what I am reflecting on.
Deacon Mark, you have said it so well! Thank you for your understanding. I have been through so very much that it often seemed like double abuse to be sure.You have helped me greatly with your reply!
Divorce is such a sore subject in our churches. We say you don't have to live in abuse but then we blame the victims of the abuse, which is really double abuse or a re- victimization.
We say; why do you stay? Why didn't you leave? Over and over and over we keep the bad focus on the victim of the abuse.While the perpetrators walk away scott free.
It is really horrible.
I recently heard from a woman who has a ministry in this field of divorce that divorce is a mortal sin.It gets so confusing.
Kathleen, you are so very right. The Church tends to have to work with those who were the one spouse who meant it when they promised to love and honor their spouse. They generally are also the victims of an abusive marriage. The process for the declaration that the matrimonial sacrament was not present (aka. an annulment) is one that I always treat with great respect and mercy for that reason. I think the Church does as well. Divorce is a tragedy. Often that tragedy begins when one spouse or the other entered into their vows falsely… with a hard heart.
My like is qualified, a half like. You make no mention of the spouse who lives under abuse both physical and mental/emotional abuse. Mental/emotional abuse is far worse and is also spiritual abuse. You should read Jenny duBay's book, Don't Plant Your Seeds Among Thorns. You might have a change of heart and realize you are promoting abuse of one person over another. I am sure you don't mean to, but that is the result of your words. By the way, the Church supports the abused spouse leaving and divorcing their abuser, and the Church offers and encourages annulment of such marriages!
Kathleen, whenever there is abuse, there is one spouse or the other that falsely entered into the Sacrament oh Matrimony. How can you take seriously your vows to love and honor and then abuse the other. That is why the Church will often declare the Sacrament as being not present… “null.” However, Jesus words in the Gospel… His command, is what I am reflecting on.
Deacon Mark, you have said it so well! Thank you for your understanding. I have been through so very much that it often seemed like double abuse to be sure.You have helped me greatly with your reply!
Divorce is such a sore subject in our churches. We say you don't have to live in abuse but then we blame the victims of the abuse, which is really double abuse or a re- victimization.
We say; why do you stay? Why didn't you leave? Over and over and over we keep the bad focus on the victim of the abuse.While the perpetrators walk away scott free.
It is really horrible.
I recently heard from a woman who has a ministry in this field of divorce that divorce is a mortal sin.It gets so confusing.
Kathleen, you are so very right. The Church tends to have to work with those who were the one spouse who meant it when they promised to love and honor their spouse. They generally are also the victims of an abusive marriage. The process for the declaration that the matrimonial sacrament was not present (aka. an annulment) is one that I always treat with great respect and mercy for that reason. I think the Church does as well. Divorce is a tragedy. Often that tragedy begins when one spouse or the other entered into their vows falsely… with a hard heart.
My like is qualified, a half like. You make no mention of the spouse who lives under abuse both physical and mental/emotional abuse. Mental/emotional abuse is far worse and is also spiritual abuse. You should read Jenny duBay's book, Don't Plant Your Seeds Among Thorns. You might have a change of heart and realize you are promoting abuse of one person over another. I am sure you don't mean to, but that is the result of your words. By the way, the Church supports the abused spouse leaving and divorcing their abuser, and the Church offers and encourages annulment of such marriages!