Jonathon Fessenden picks up with Jenny duBay and her book “Don't Plant Your Seeds Among Thorns: A Catholic's Guide to Recognizing and Healing from Domestic Abuse.”
I was in an abusive relationship, eventually divorced. After the divorce, I did not always do things right, so I would be able to heal and be whole again. However, I did do one thing right. I decided to return to the things I liked and enjoyed and things important to me. In the beginning it was a type of angry rebellion against my former husband. My motivation was a type of revenge, so my motivation was wrong. But the Lord honored it a yway. I think because He knew it would eventually lead to healthy self love; done because I wanted healing; done because I did it for me knowing my family and friends would benefit too. In short, Giving myself permission to be me and live and be what I enjoyed, lead to even more healing and inner freedom than I ever realized was possible. Motivation needed lots of tweaks, but it was a step in the right direction!
I was in an abusive relationship, eventually divorced. After the divorce, I did not always do things right, so I would be able to heal and be whole again. However, I did do one thing right. I decided to return to the things I liked and enjoyed and things important to me. In the beginning it was a type of angry rebellion against my former husband. My motivation was a type of revenge, so my motivation was wrong. But the Lord honored it a yway. I think because He knew it would eventually lead to healthy self love; done because I wanted healing; done because I did it for me knowing my family and friends would benefit too. In short, Giving myself permission to be me and live and be what I enjoyed, lead to even more healing and inner freedom than I ever realized was possible. Motivation needed lots of tweaks, but it was a step in the right direction!